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Want to Cut Through the Chit Chat?

Ever feel like you keep having the same conversation that goes no where?

Do you find the empty chit chat of dating tiresome? 


The same “getting to know you” conversation over and over again?


Feeling like you are just going through the motions, either through messages or on the first date? 

 

Fed up of the shallow conversations? Then ask the deep questions 

Here are some Questions to Shake Things Up!

Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Gottman institute

  • What does trust mean to you?
  • How was conflict handled in your family growing up?
  • How do you feel about work now and how do you see it changing in the future?
  • What are your hopes and dreams when it comes to money?
  • What does family mean to you?
  • How did you like to play as a child?
  • What’s the most recent adventurous thing you did?
  • How do you feel you have grown the most? In what areas?

36 Questions to fall in love... some of the lighter ones

  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  • Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  • What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  • If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  • Take four minutes and tell your date your life story in as much detail as possible.
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
  • Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  • What do you value most in a friendship?
  • What is your most treasured memory?
  • What does friendship mean to you?
  • Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
  • How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
  • Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ..."
  • If you were going to become a close friend with your date, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
  • Tell your date something that you like about them already.
  • Tell your date what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
  • Share with your date an embarrassing moment in your life.
  • When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
  • Tell your date what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
  • Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

How to Use these Questions

When messaging someone online, drop one of these questions into the chat to cut through the chit chat and make the conversation go a little deeper. 


Before a date pick one of these questions that you like best and ask it if the conversation dips. 


On a date ask them if they have ever heard of the 36 questions. you can then google them and share with your date. You can each pick one question to ask. 


I don't advise you try to get through all the questions in one date... that might be a little intense. 


Want to take control of your dating life so you can find your person?

And not just feel like dating is happening to you?

Our courses can help! 

Take some time to reflect on how you are approaching dating and get some practical tips to help you navigate today's dating scene. 

How our Courses Help

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..to  get clear on where dating has been going wrong for you and what to do about it, so you can finally delete the apps and build a lasting relationship?


...to go from not knowing why you can’t get lucky in love to a clear plan for your dating. 


...to date with intention and find the person to build a happy healthy relationship with? 


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Norah let go of the belief holding her back, changed her mindset around dating and is now in a healthy loving relationship

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Norah let go of the belief holding her back, changed her mindset around dating and is now in a healthy loving relationship

Lorraine went from being checked out of dating for a long time to dating online, not over thinking and meeting someone

Mary broke out of her on/off relationship with dating apps, dated with intention and met someone before her next big birthday!

Norah let go of the belief holding her back, changed her mindset around dating and is now in a healthy loving relationship

Mary broke out of her on/off relationship with dating apps, dated with intention and met someone before her next big birthday!

Mary broke out of her on/off relationship with dating apps, dated with intention and met someone before her next big birthday!

Mary broke out of her on/off relationship with dating apps, dated with intention and met someone before her next big birthday!

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I honestly believe with the right mindset love can be found.

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Having been there I know how hard dating can feel. 

I don't believe in following game plans, or acting a certain way to catch "the one". 

I believe that you need to have the confidence to be your true self. I will give you the confidence to be you. 


Kindling Dating Coaching is all about putting the focus back on you, finding the right way to make you shine. 


I don't promise quick fixes like send this text to get him back or how to know what they really want. Instead you will gain self awareness, confidence in what you bring to a relationship and a deep belief that you will find love. Once you have this, the dating is just the steps to finding it. 


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